Minimalist Living; How I Was Able To Clean Out My Home

A few weeks ago, while cruising through Flipboard I came across a new to me magazine titled Minimalist Living. To be honest I am not sure if it is an actual magazine or a collection of blogs dedicated to living a minimalist lifestyle.

The articles talk about everything from living with less, to finding peace within.  Each article reminds readers that we are more than what we possess.  Admittedly some articles do not seem to have anything to do with being a minimalist, but they do offer insights into better living. One, titled Give it five minutes, is a lesson on taking a deep breath before acting. The author, Joshua Becker,  shares his past as a hothead and how he learned to rein in his knee jerk reactions. He has learned to be calmer and think before he acts.  Becker shows us there are many ways to simplify our lives.

Since I found the iPad magazine I started to notice other sites that talked about living minimally. Just a few days ago The Huffington Post had an article on the subject. The comment section was laugh out loud funny (like most comment boards). Some people boasted of giving it all up, moving into their back yards and foraging for food, while others whined they just wanted more counter space.  The majority of the comments talked about how hard it would be to give their beloved knick knacks up even as they feel overwhelmed with all the stuff in their homes.  Giving up stuff is not as hard as you may imagine, it is keeping things from sneaking back in that tests our commitment to minimalist living. Yes, I said our, because you see, I am in the minimalist camp.

3 1/2 years ago (how time flies) I was rushed to the emergency room on a Friday morning and spent 4 days in intensive care with congestive heart failure.  The doctors decided I needed a pacemaker and when that did not help, I was sent home to prepare for major heart surgery and to possibly prepare for the inevitable.  I was born with a congenital heart condition that may not allow me to live a long life, on the other hand, I have lived a lot longer than predicted at my birth.

Lying in bed a few nights after coming home the thought of death kept me awake. I have a son and mother whom I love very much. As my thoughts drifted to them, it occurred to me that if I died, they would be tasked with cleaning out my house. The more I thought about this, the worse I felt. How could I ask these two grieving people to clean out my junk?  I mental walked through my house, looking in closets and drawers. I always prided myself on not having a house full of stuff, but the more I mentally took my tour, the more I realized I hold on to some rather silly stuff; did I really need a pink piggy bank with sunglasses?

For the next week I went on a purging spree. I started with the top shelves of my bedroom closets and ended with my over stuffed junk drawers.  My son followed me from room to room as I asked, “do you want this, does this mean anything to you”? “Ah, no”? was his bewildered reply. Many things he did not want went to Goodwill, some went in the trash, and to my neighbors surprise, many went out in to the driveway in boxes marked Free.

As I decluttered my house, I found my mind becoming clear, and as I found space in my home, I found space in my heart and mind. When I was done I realized I felt lighter, I had no idea i was mentally carrying so much! The things I kept were things that meant a lot to me. Now as I tour my home, I look upon my stuff fondly. Everything has a purpose, even it that purpose is nothing more than to make me smile.

I still have a long way to go. Walking in my garage is almost as bad as walking into hoarder’s house.  I have way to many Christmas decorations, even after giving my son two boxes for his first apartment. I have stuff I could not get rid of. Who would guess it would be so hard to sell a swimming pool filter in a state that hits over 105 degrees all summer? When did I become that person who keeps empty boxes?

Getting rid of my stuff was easy, keeping it out, now that is the hard part. My mother tried to give me yet more Christmas decorations, but I was able to say no, even though she has some great stuff! I no longer haunt garage sales and stay clear of clearance sales. Yes it is hard to keep things from trying to come in, I better read some more articles.

Taking a Stand, Why Choice Matters

Every time I enter a big grocery store I think of my late best friend Caroline.  I walk in, look around and reflect on her philosophy; we Americans have way to many choices.  Caroline never shopped in big stores, she was forever dragging me to small co-ops and thrift store.  Her favorite store was a funky organic grocery store where we could always count on local produce and bulk staples. She limited her choices to used cloths and a small variety of foods and sundries.  She taught me that we can always get what we want even as we limit what it was we want.

She did this after coming back from India, having lived there for 3 years. She said coming back to America was a total culture shock she just never got over, and for her, big grocery stores stood for American gluttony. I don’t necessarily agree with her, but the lessons she taught me about the choices we make have stayed with me.  I still shop at thrift stores, especially when I am looking for a piece of furniture.  I would rather re-use before I buy new. This is one choice I make consciously.

Many of us don’t think about the choices we make. Most of us make decisions over time and then stick with our choices. Can you imagine how overwhelming it would be if we had to decide which brand of laundry soap, bread, salad dressing etc , every time we shopped? I bet many of us would become more like Caroline, and limit our choices or go nuts. When we do have to make decisions we do so after careful research and talking to others. It takes time, but we do so because we want the best product for our hard earned money.

Besides making choices about products, we can choose to take a stand.  This is harder, especially with what is going on right now. What can we, the small consumer do? Where do we start?

I think about this a lot, over the years I have taken many stands on social issues but lately I have been frustrated with what I can actually do. It seems every time I turn on the news I am bombarded  things that make me mad but I am not sure what to do with my anger. This weekend though, things changed. I found an issue I could chose to take a stand on. This is why, instead of blogging over the weekend , I spent a lot of time writing e-mails, calling 800 numbers, tweeting and signing petitions. This issue? Rush Limbaugh’s  decision to call a young college student, who testified in front of a Senate hearing, a slut and prostitute.  He crossed the line with these words and the twisting of the issue he was talking about. I may not totally agree with the issue of employer paid birth control, but there is no excuse for what he did.

It is because we do have so many products to choose from that it was easy to take a stand. I contacted the companies who advertised with the leader of the Dittoheads, to let them know I was choosing to boycott their products unless they pulled their ads from his show.  I got flowers from Pro-Flowers  for Valentine’s Day, so I was able to point to that order and tell the company it would be my last . I left a polite but firm message on Mission Pharmcal, the makers of Citracal, that I would find my calcium supplement in different form until they pulled their ads and reminded Autozone there are plenty of other stores women could shop in for their car part needs (yes, women do buy car parts). I sent a tweet to E-Harmony, not that I use their service, but come on, a dating site is remaining quite on this issue?

Many, many others have taken the same stand; as of this afternoon 12 advertisers have pulled their ads and two stations have pulled his show from their lineup. Mission Pharmcal has issued a statement on their website that they have not advertized on his show in years, I bet they won’t in the future either!  This has shown me that sometimes, when we chose to take a stand it works, and that sometimes we have to think about which products or services we buy.  Sometimes our choices should include the word NO!

If you would like to take a stand on this issue I am providing a link to a great blog, Freesia Lane. This blogger has taken the time to give out numbers and contact names and I thank her for it.

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