Independent, and self-reliant are not the same thing

Side street in downtown Carson City during the 1997 flood.
Side street in downtown Carson City during the 1997 flood.

Atmospheric Rivers (ARs) are relatively narrow regions in the atmosphere that are responsible for most of the horizontal transport of water vapor outside of the tropics. While ARs come in many shapes and sizes, those that contain the largest amounts of water vapor, the strongest winds, and stall over watersheds vulnerable to flooding, can create extreme rainfall and floods. https://www.esrl.noaa.gov/psd/atmrivers/

Well, 2017 sure is off to a great start (she says in a sarcastic tone). Northern Nevada is bracing for flood levels not seen since 1997. This was the year Carson City made national news because of the downtown flooding, and the year the previous owner of my house installed a sump-pump because the backyard and garage flooded. And no, I was unaware of this fact when purchased my house; I found out when the sump-pump kicked on during the 2005 flood.The coming storm is worrisome due to the heavy snowfall we saw a few days ago, and before that, three days of rain that has already filled our lakes and rivers. The atmospheric river headed our way is expected to last two days and cause the Truckee River to crest 11 feet above capacity. That’s a hell of a lot of water!

Thursday afternoon the Nevada Office of Emergency Management put out a statement warning residents to be flood ready by the weekend. They suggested everyone take the Friday break in weather to get prepared for power outages and flooded streets. The list of ways residents should prep included, removing snow from roofs and areas near houses, making sure debris was cleared from foundation vents (better to have water under the house rather than in the house) and having enough supplies to last at least 3 days in case the power outage lasts that long.

Having experienced a flood, and living through another atmospheric river storm that caused a week long power outage, I took it upon myself to get as ready I could. Given enough warning you would think more people would, but you’d be wrong. In fact the more I talked to people and watched them, the more apparent something became; far too many Americans confuse the idea of independence and self-reliance skills.

The archetype for an independent American is that rugged or tough individual whose personal survival skills allow him or her to face any situation head on, who values self –reliance over social interaction. We’ve all seen the Hollywood movies that depict the “cowboy” mentality that goes hand in hand with the notion of independent as a personality trait, so no need for me to explain this further, other than to point out, that while this is model we know, most independent people do not fit the mold. In fact I’d argue that today’s independent minded person would last a mere two days in the wild west.

The modern independent personality prides him or herself on the ability to do what he or she please, whenever or however they see fit. No one tells them what to do! Often this personality seeks out jobs that allow them to work on their own schedule, and one their own term Most of these personalities have few close friends and usually have less successful long-term relationships. They pride themselves on the ability to be alone if only because they tend to distance themselves on any kind of personal accountability. And while there is nothing wrong with this personality, it doesn’t always serve those with these traits well. In fact, from my experience, it makes for a rather ironic worldview, especially when it comes to natural disasters. How many times have we witnessed some independent dumb-ass being recused from their home because they decided to “ride it out”?

When it comes to the dichotomy between being independent and being self-reliant, the gulf can be wide and have dire consequences.

I decided to take the officials’ advice and spend Friday preparing for the storm. I made sure I cleared up the areas around my house after returning from the local public works yard that had invited citizens to come down and prepare sandbags for personal use. Surprisingly there were only a handful of people, mostly men, at the yard.

I then went to a few stores to get needed supplies. Again, I was surprised at the low turnout and by what people were shopping for. Normally before a storm you’d see people stocking up on water and food supplies. Most seemed to be ignorant of the oncoming storm, as evident by overheard conversations. The majority shrugged their shoulders at the idea of a flood and took the attitude that that weathermen were wrong most of the time. I saw a man purchase a big blowtorch in order to de-ice his sidewalk, another laughed about the storm as he stocked up on booze. This type of mindset is not unusual which is why so many people are caught “unaware” when a natural disaster hits. I wasn’t in the least surprised by what I heard as I made my way around town.

But what did surprise me, was just how clueless many of the so-called independence were that I talked to. These people were dead sure that the city would never let a flood happen (as if by city decree the water would magically disappear) or that the county would never allow a power outages to last longer than a few hours. When I pointed that no utility company in their right mind would allow workers to fix electric lines while standing in water, they looked dumbstruck, as if electricity was a god given right and how dare I suggest otherwise.

One of the most flagrant ideas that modern independent personalities hold is the idea that they can pay someone to do what is needed to be done. This is in sharp contrast to the self-reliant personality that knows what needs to be done, and does it themselves. This former idea hit home yesterday as I talked to my “strong independent” roommate who wears her independence like a cloak, about how we should be preparing. As I pointed out everything that needed to be done I received the following replies:

Can’t you just pay someone to shovel the snow?

Can’t we talk some man into making the sandbags for us? To be fair, she did help with the sandbags.

What do you mean we can’t use a generator in a flood? We can’t go without heat!

And while I was busy getting ready for the storm, she and her small group of independent friends went to the local cinema and then out for drinks. Because of course if something dreadful did occur they all assumed they could get someone to help them out. I am quite certain that had my roommate still been living alone when the flood hit, she’d be one of those individuals on the phone trying to get the city to solve her problems. I can even hear it now, “But you have to come, I’m a woman living alone and can’t possibly deal with this by myself!”, proving that independence and self-reliance are not the same thing.

Here’s a list of survival items I’ve got in case I am stuck home for a couple of days. If I’ve missed anything, please let me know.

Camping stove with two fresh propane bottles

Pour over coffee maker

Extra candles and batteries

8 jugs of bottled water

2 buckets of water

Fully stocked up first aid kit-(bonus points for having an ace-bandage)

Fully charged cell phone and laptop

A big freshly made pot of potato and lentil soup and a goodly amount of canned goods, just in case

Fresh oranges- and yes, I am aware I am not going on a sea voyage in which scurvy is a problem, but still, I’d rather eat fresh than canned.

Gas for the generator, in case the power goes out and the water doesn’t come into the garage.

I’ve got flashlights in every other room so that I am not fumbling in the dark. I’d hate to have an emergency situation on my hand simple because I fell as I stumbled over a piece of furniture. I’ve got a bucket of water in each bathroom because there is no reason to live in third world conditions. The toilets will remain flushable! I’ve got enough food (more than enough) to last a few days and enough books to last at least two years. I’ve pulled out extra blankets, and made sure my laundry is caught up. I filled my prescriptions and made sure I have enough coffee, because who the hell would want to go thru all of this without coffee?

Now you may be asking, why don’t you just leave, rather than end up being saved on the evening news? I have a plan for that too. If we only have minor flooding I rather stay home and protect my home from the water. But if the power goes out before major flooding hits, my cousin will come get me in his big American made truck and take me to his house which is out of town and away from the flood plain. I am self-reliant to a point, and not at all stupid.

Let’s Get Personal My 2017 Resolutions

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Well here we are, the first day of 2017. Time for resolutions, no? Nope. Not this years. You see, I’ve already started on my resolutions; I started them on November 10. As the numbness of the election results started to wear off and the realization that our country elected a divisive con artist, I decided the only way foreword was to make some personal changes as a way to cope with the inevitable train wreak headed our way. I decided that day that I would refuse to allow this cartoon villain to define what it means to be an American, at least for me. Wow, did I come up with quite the list!

As I took stock of my values and worldview, it became clear that my resolutions would involve a lot of personal growth and daily self-reflection. Oh yes, I have a few outwardly looking goals, but these can only enhance the changes I want to see in myself.

Become better informed, but question everything. If we have collectively learned anything from 2016, it’s that there is a lot of misinformation being fed to us, so much so that it’s harder and harder to distinguish fact from fiction. Couple that with the fear and anxiety expressed by those who buy into every reported ‘fact” and you find yourself overloaded with the raw emotions and negative energy coming from all directions. Since November 10th, I have worked hard to either calm friend’s fears and point them to obvious facts or shrug their energy off. This has led me to double check myself, and my reaction to news and articles. I am not a huge fan of the late Christopher Hitchens, but I’ve decided to take two of his quotes to heart.

“I’m more inclined to doubt something if its truth would be something that would suite me.” That which sounds “right” to me will be the first thing I research.

“What can be asserted without proof can be dismissed without proof.” I will no longer argue with anyone who comes to the discussion without proof or facts. I will dismiss what they say and move on. No explanation by me is required.

Learning to draw boundaries and learn to say No without feeling bad. This is one that a lot of women struggle with. I thought I had overcome my inability to draw personal lines but I was wrong. I still consider other people’s needs over mine. This has really hit home recently and has caused me to feel ill at ease in my own home. No more. Along with shutting out the negative “truth” seekers, I am drawing a thick boundary line between myself, and those who take advantage of my softer side. I’ve made some progress already, as I have weeded several people out of my life that found sport in my “weakness”.

Know my worth. Yes, as I mentioned in a previous post, I did pass the state test needed to work my way up the ladder, but did I get the promotion I was going for? No. But not because I was the least qualified but because it’s not always what you know, it’s who you know. But instead of being bitter for being passed over for a job that I am oh so very capable of doing, I am looking at the positives; I learned once again, that I am smarter than I give myself credit for, and after a pep talk by my manager, learned that I have a lot of job skills other state departments value. Instead of bemoaning the unfair hiring practices the state sometimes engages in, I rewrote my resume, highlighting my many skills. I am confident that soon I will advance because I am learning my worth. 2016 was the year I conquered my math phobia; completed my first professional book editing job; broke off a relationship that had me giving more than I was getting and started to let go of my negative outlook.

Things I want to do in 2017

Read more, binge- watch TV less. Sorry Netflix, but our close relationship is over. You and will remain friends, but I think it’s time for some me time. Over the past two years my eyesight has diminished. My doctor tells me it is time for a left eye lens replacement. I’ve put it off long enough. This is the year I stop being a baby about and just get it done! Reading is far too important to me to let my fear of eye surgery keep me from doing what I love the most.

Have more fun. I don’t know what the coming year has in store for us as a nation, but I am determined to get out more and explore my surroundings. My friends and I have make a pact to try new things and find new hobbies.

Be a more engaging online friend. I do try to keep up with my online community, but often feel I don’t engage as much as I should. There are a lot of lovely, warm individuals (especially you who are reading this) that I dearly appreciate. I want to become even better friends and make deeper connections.

Be happy with what I have and stop stressing. This is something I tend to do anyway, but I will double my efforts to look on the bright side and remember I could be much more worse off. I tend to play that “what if” game without really doing anything about it. I know I cannot just turn off my anxiety button, but I can make an effort to change what needs to be changed in order to mitigate my fears about the future. This includes getting a better handle on my finances, and make some kind of plan for the future instead of just worrying about it.

Yes I plan on writing more, eat less and get into better shape, but don’t we all on January 01?

Speaking of your plans, do tell me in the comment section if you’ve made any resolutions. As always, I love to hear from you!

P.S.
I don’t know about you, but I miss the yearly WordPress review that shows how our blog has done over the past 12 months. I did my own review and found that during Shakespeare week I averaged almost 2,000 visitors per day! Looks like we have a winner as far as posts go, so now I know what the majority of my visitors like.

Happy New Year!!!

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