How I fixed my moral dilemma with cable TV

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Happy Sunday, everyone. Before I begin, it should be noted that the following is not a self-congratulatory post, nor is it a smug wink, written with the express purpose of showing off an “achievement” I deem worthy of praise for I really hate these kinds of articles. Readers of Slate, or Huffington Post will understand what I am talking about. You know the one’s that talk about the author’s achievement as if no one else has or can pull this off. “I went a year without Sex” is one that sets my teeth on edge (big deal sister, try six). “I went a year without makeup”. Is the author of this one unaware that some women go a lifetime without makeup? What kind of award do you give yourself for this?

No, it is not my purpose to show off something I did. I want to get us talking about the influence cable TV has on the American culture and how this can change. I am hoping to start a conversation about our complicity in the rise of Televison human garbage.

It is no secret that even in the early days of Television, the influence was front and center. TV was free to American consumers because advertisers flocked to the medium when they realized the gold mine that it offered. Unlike radio, TV displayed Americans the goods and services they “needed”. Thanks in large part to this new visual medium, America become a culture of consumers. We not only bought into the idea that we needed what we saw on TV, we bought into the idea that we needed TV as part of our everyday life. It quickly became the norm to not only own a TV, but to see it as our main source of entertainment and news.

I cannot deny that TV has been a valuable source of news and education. We got to watch the Moon landing thanks to TV, and the Civil Rights movement succeeded to change the hearts and minds of people who otherwise would never witness the brutality of segregation. TV has opened our eyes to far away lands and different cultures. As much as our lives have been enriched by Television, there is a new emerging ugly side to it. And it’s where I’ve hit my personal wall. Between the rising cost of cable and the crap shows forced upon us, I just can’t stomach the idea of supporting the cable industry any longer, or at least in the way they want me to.

How we received television has drastically changed over the last 30 years. As stated before, television was once free, as corporations looking for innovated ways to enter our homes supported the industry. But slowly over time, the cable industry began to double dip; much like drug dealers they freely introduced us to their product, then once hooked, began to charge us for content. And, because the medium is so ingrained in our culture, we willingly pay whatever price they set, even though the industry is making record profits. Cable TV is a billion dollar industry thanks to our willingness to pay up. I can’t support this anymore.

We all complain about the lack of quality television and the crap that is forced down our throats, yet how many of us, including me, really take the time to think about our complicity in this? Even if we don’t watch the shows we complain about, our willingness to support the industry allows them to continue to feed us garbage. This idea hit home for me when the Duggar scandal hit the fan.

The idea of cutting the cord had been playing in my head for a few months now, but because I enjoy some shows, I hesitated to do what a lot of my friends have already done. I will be the first to admit that some times, TV is my brain candy of choice. I was weighing the dollar value of TV when the scandal hit. I’ve longed complained that TCL, once a great learning channel, now spews out nothing but garbage. But it never occurred to me that in a small way, I supported it. Learning that TCL pulled the show, but has yet to cancel it made me think about my support of the industry and all the other human garbage cable TV has given us. It hit me that even though I don’t keep up with the Kardashians, in a way I support their lifestyle by giving Charter Communications my hard earned money. I cannot and will not support them any longer. I will not be complicit to the moral degradation of our society any longer.

My moral dilemma did not start with the Duggars, just as they are not the first to use their celebrity status as a mouthpiece for the homophobic or racist cause. We had the Duck Dynasty and Paula Dean incidents long before the Duggars’ scandal. But between learning about Josh, and Michelle’s robo calls, I felt compelled to weigh the moral value of cable television. It came up wanting.

As I said, some times TV is my brain candy of choice. Let’s face it, as a single working woman, I often find myself in front of my television on a Saturday night. But now, thanks to new innovations I don’t have to completely give up TV. I will not cut my nose to spite my face, but I will cut the cord in order to be able to look at myself in the mirror. Cable TV, you are dead to me. And if you don’t think they care, think again. Because I guarantee you, if we start cutting en masse, the industry will take notice.

When I called Chart Communications and told the rep I was unsubscribing he immediately transferred me to a supervisor who tried to assure me that their product was valuable to me. For a second I felt like a cult follower who was caught trying to leave the compound. The supervisor warned me (yes warned!) that if I subscribed to a satellite company, the experience would be terrible. She went on to list the horrors of satellite TV. I laughingly cut her off; “I didn’t say anything about satellite TV, lady. I simply want to unsubscribe from cable, as I will no longer support human garbage or pay for channels I do not watch. I bought a Roku, and subscribed to HBO Now. Instead of paying you $113.00 a month, I will have all the entertainment I need for around $30.00 a month, none of which will go to TLC or E Entertainment”. There was a moment of stunned silence from the other end. “Oh, okay, well then, I all I can say, is thank you for being a customer”. I could picture her running to her boss, whispering, “a 50 year old lady has figured out how to live without cable. What the hell is going on? Are the end of days coming?”

Yes, I hope for the cable industry it is. I hope more and more Americans figure out that rather than complain about, yet continue to support the industry, there is something they can do without completely giving up the medium. There is a way to shovel the human garbage and constant advertisements. The industry is changing, and if we are willing, we can change who we will and how much we are willing to pay support them.

 

The rape of Sansa Stark

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Okay, take a deep breath. We are going to talk about rape, more specifically, TV rape, so if this is a trigger issue, please stop reading now. This is not a post you will enjoy. Come back later, I promise this will not be an ongoing topic. Warning number 2. If you haven’t yet watched Sunday’s episode of Game of Thrones (GOT), stop reading now. The post will be dark and full of spoilers. Still here? Okay let’s do this.

I want to start with this, I want to make it emphatically clear, rape is bad. Whether we are talking about raping a drunken co-ed or serial rape, it’s bad. How disgusted am I with this form of violence? I think everyone who has been convicted should have his dick cut off. Is that clear enough? I don’t think anyone who violently forces himself on a woman should get any kind of pass.

Having said that, I am shocked and confused by the visceral response to Sunday’s GOT episode and find the outrage disingenuous and hypocritical. The level of hate thrown at the writers really has me puzzled. Many people Tweeted that they are going to stop watching the show. Others suggested the writers must hate women, and accused the show runners of being insensitive to women. Most of those who voiced their feelings felt the rape scene was unnecessary and over the top. One woman Tweeted over and over again, “We are outraged because rape was used as a plot point! This led me to wonder if she would have been okay with it, had it been gratuitous, like most of the other forms of violence we see on the show? And over the top? No, from what I saw, the writers dealt with a bad situation as best they could.

If you don’t know what I am talking about let me take a moment to explain. During the last few minutes of Sunday’s episode, after Sansa marries Ramsey, he takes her to his room and makes his servant, Stockholm Syndrome victim, Theon (Reek) watch as he rapes his virginal wife. Viewers do not see the rape, we heard it, but the camera stayed on Theon’s face the entire time. The camera faded to black as we watched Theon cringe and cry. This pissed off a Salon writer, who felt this was an indication that the writers were more concerned about Theon’s feelings than they were with Sansa’s. Ironically, the piece that argues that the focus should have been on Sansa (a woman) used a picture of Tyrion and Jorah (two men) as the header. Didn’t really think that through did you Salon?

As I stated earlier, I was shocked and confused by the outrage. This is what people and some article writers are pissed about? You’d think this was the first time GOT explored the violent side of human nature. It’s not. Here’s a list, off the top of my head of graphic violence viewers have seen:

Men getting their heads cut off

Babies being stabbed in the belly and thrown in the ocean

Baby boys being left in the snow to die or be taken by the White Walkers

Two young boys burned alive and strung up as trophies

A prostituted tied and shot with a cross bow (okay, we didn’t actually see Rose get shot but we saw the aftermath)

Theon being tortured week after week cumulating in his dick being cut off.

A girl torn apart by dogs (okay, we didn’t see that either, but we heard it just like we heard Sansa scream).

I think you get the point. This is a very violent show. Yet when the aforementioned list was shown, not much was said. Oh there were a few sniffles and mild comments, but nothing like what we saw after Sunday’s show. Why? What the hell makes this particular violent scene worse that any previous violent act? Why is this worse than seeing babies being killed? Why is this worse than seeing anyone killed? Remember the Red Wedding? A pregnant woman was stabbed and left to bleed to death. Why didn’t those who vow to stop watching the show now, stop then? Was it because these deaths weren’t used as plot points? Because we weren’t forced to watch Sansa reaction? This is something Salon seems to think is an issue. Who the hell wanted to see that?!

The Salon writer, Libby Hill, suggests that because we saw the rape from Theon’s point of view, the show is more concerned about his reaction than Sansa’s. I suggest Hill keeps these two things in mind: we saw a little of Sansa’s reaction when she was being forced on the bed. And unless you’ve seen all of the remaining shows ahead of time, reserve judgment. I guarantee we will see Sansa’s reaction soon enough, and it won’t be pretty.

That we saw the rape from Theon’s point of view was a relief. If we were subjected to seeing the actual rape, I could understand the outcry. Again, who the hell would want to see that? Let’s look at three reasons we saw this from Theon’s point of view and why this was used as the dreaded plot point:

First, we saw this from Theon’s point of view as a cinematic devise. Theon was a stand in for the audience. His reaction was our reaction. He shared our horror and was used as a means that allowed us to forgo watching the rape.

Secondly, Theon suffers from an extreme case of Stockholm syndrome. He is petrified of Ramsey and allows himself to be abused because at this point, he is not even sure who he is. Being forced to watch as Ramsey abuses Sansa will be the thing that pushes him over the edge, the thing that makes him snap out of it.

Theon is not a sympathetic character. Remember he is the one that had the two boys burned alive and let everyone believe he had killed the two youngest Stark children. There is not much he can do to redeem himself to the audience at this point. The audience, like Sansa doesn’t care what happens to him. But if he avenges Sansa or helps her kill Ramsey, the audience will cheer and forgive him for his past.

And finally, we watched this from Theon’s point of view because the writers knew that this was a touchy subject. It is not that they hate women (and spoiler alert, this is from the books, though a different character is raped) but they understood that this would be hard for women. Though my personal preference would have been to have an implied rape, I think the writers acted as delicately as they could, given the narrative and need for something horrible to happen in order to drive the storyline forward. Like it or not haters, plot points are used to drive a story forward. As horrible as this is, it might be the only thing that would make Sansa align with Theon. Moments before, she said to him, “Do you think I care what Ramsey does to you?”

This scene was no more violent than most. In fact, I’d argue that it was less graphic and jarring than what we’ve seen in the past. I don’t understand why this is worse than anything else GOT has thrown at us, and why torches and pitchfork are being raised. All forms of violence are horrible and deserve our outrage, if they happen in real life. But this is a TV show, and if you are going to be outraged by this, you damn well better be outraged by all of the show’s violence with equal measure.

By the way, you may want see what Sophie Turner, the girl who plays Sansa has to say about the scene http://www.express.co.uk/entertainment/tv-radio/578198/Sophie-Turner-Sansa-Stark-Game-of-Thrones-Black-Wedding-rape

Libby Hill, A Game of Thrones recap Salon. com

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